Sunday, May 3, 2009

some tips for you....

I was browsing my mail inbox when this forwarded email caught my attention..

Keeping a Relationship


> > It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one
available.
> > Best to wait for the one you love than one who's around.

> > Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted on just
someone.
> > "An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye."

> > Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

> > Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

> > Once you decide to commit to someone, overtime, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

> > If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

> > You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.

> > You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

> > Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?

> > Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

> > What do you bring to the relationship?

> > Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past> mistrust, past pain?

> > You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.

> > If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you
won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

> > Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

> > Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
> > What keeps a relationship strong?

- communication
- intimacy
- a sense of humor
- sharing household tasks
- some getaway time without business or children
- daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
- sharing common goals and interests
- giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
- giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
- asking God to be the center of your relationship
> > If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
> > As long as we have memories, yesterday remains

> > As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits

> > As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful."
> > Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a Relationship and find out that you still care for that person.


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